The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking

Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking

256 pages

English language

Published Dec. 1, 2012 by Farrar, Straus & Giroux.

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978-1-4299-4760-2
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4 stars (5 reviews)

A witty, fascinating, and counterintuitive read that turns decades of self-help advice on its head and forces us to rethink completely our attitudes toward failure, uncertainty, and death.

The Antidote is a series of journeys among people who share a single, surprising way of thinking about life. What they have in common is a hunch about human psychology: that it's our constant effort to eliminate the negative that causes us to feel so anxious, insecure, and unhappy. And that there is an alternative "negative path" to happiness and success that involves embracing the things we spend our lives trying to avoid. It is a subversive, galvanizing message, which turns out to have a long and distinguished philosophical lineage ranging from ancient Roman Stoic philosophers to Buddhists.

Oliver Burkeman talks to life coaches paid to make their clients' lives a living hell, and to maverick security experts such as Bruce Schneier, …

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A Surprisingly Uncynical - and Delicious - Antidote to Poisonous Positive Thinking

5 stars

Starting with the subtitle, "The Antidote" positions itself against "positive thinking" - the sort of mind-over-matter faith in the future that pretty much every other self-help book espouses, a doctrine that author Burkeman neatly and thoroughly dismantles with copious endnotes. But there's no lazy cynicism here, in a search for happiness via unconventional and counterintuitive ways, and a surprising amount of, well, positivity. From Seneca and the Stoics to memento mori's and a shrine to Saint Death, Burkeman guides the reader on a whistle-stop tour of philosophies that reorient our ideas about happiness, success or even the self. I absolutely devoured it - it's also, in parts, very funny! - and think it might become an annual read, or at least a great starting point on further reading.

Review of "The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking" on 'Goodreads'

4 stars

A must read in this ocean of positive thinking and impossible goal settings society. This book teaches you a lot about how the whole positive thinking movement can do you more damages than good, while thinking about possible failures and the possibility of death can, inversely, lead you toward a better understanding of life and its challenges.

Review of 'Antidote' on 'Goodreads'

3 stars

I've had high hopes for this book, as I do in fact hate positive thinking and the cult of optimism.

However, I think this book is lacking deep research and evidence, except anecdotal, about whether the negative capacity techniques the author suggests instead actually lead to a better life. More often than not, an example of one extraordinary person is taken as the main evidence.

Plus this book seems to lack a unified central thread. Here is this person with this interesting idea, and another with that, and next chapter is yet another with that, and it is not immediately clear how does it come together.

The author's understanding of positive psychology also seems a bit haphazard and lacking - he pretty much lumps everything characteristic of the contemporary American corporate self-help under that label.

That being said, I've still enjoyed the book, and I have learned some new things

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Subjects

  • Happiness
  • Self-actualization (psychology)