We wanted to read something about living that good life while being plural, and this was the one title we remembered. I can imagine that this was really important when it was published, but folks have built on it since then. For every topic in the book, I've read things on the internet that make more sense to me, explain it with more nuance, offer advice that goes better with my understanding of people and the world. A lot of the advice in here involves contracts, rules and control, things that we haven't found helpful so far.

There were two things that we took from it and found helpful: One is tapping/EFT, which for some reason appeals to us – we haven't read deeper into it. The other one are these four questions to figure out what is going on: "Who's here? What's going on for you? What do you need right now? Are you the most appropriate part to be here right now?"

We were reluctant to read this because we don't see our plurality in the frameworks that many writing about DID employs, but this worry was unfounded – sure, we don't vibe with every concept in there, but there was enough space for our own interpretations.