A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck #1
212 pages
English language
Published Sept. 13, 2016 by Harper.
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on …
In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
Never having read nor had any interest in self-help books, I found this to be a surprisingly enjoyable read. My children all enjoyed it as well and have recommended it to many of their friends. I believe it's one that every child should read before they leave the nest.
I like some of the things he says about improving mental health by not judging by others and not always having to be the best and appreciating what you have. But I can't help feeling that "Not Giving a Fuck" is a very privileged position to be in. Those who are disadvantaged by circumstance or discrimination may not have the luxury of this position.
I think if I was 10-20 years younger, I think I would have enjoyed this more. There was nothing overly profound, but there were some new nuggets of wisdom that I was able to take away from this. For anyone just getting into the self-help genre, this would likely be a decent start.
বইটা ভালো লেগেছে (রেটিঙেই প্রমাণ)। লেখক খানিকটা আমার 'মেলায় হারিয়ে যাওয়া জমজ ভাই' এর মত। ক্রমাগত আত্মরতির ওপর দাঁড়ানো বর্তমান সমাজের প্রচলিত সব মোটিভেশন নিয়ে সবসময়ই স্কেপটিক ছিলাম। শুধু এই লোকটার মত ভালো গালাগালি করতে পারি না, এই যা!
Not enough interesting, funny, or insightful material. Feels padded, and the title phrase gets old fast.
Another nice book about defining your priorities and what you want and expect from life. This one forces you to look at things in an objective way and to define real, tangible values for yourself, on which you can work on, and not some material success or keeping on comparing to others. This book made me laugh quite a lot of time, as it's written in a blunt way and doesn't cut around the edges, but god did it felt good.
"I say don’t find yourself. I say never know who you are. Because that’s what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others."
