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@intrepidhero@vmst.io Exactly. It hurts to read this, but in a way I know I need to hear. It's forcing me to consider my reactions and responses to others in a new light. And to take responsibility for my own thoughts and feelings towards others.
And it makes me wonder when I shifted the burden if responsibility for what I think on to others?
In chapter 1, it is practice gratitude rather than contempt. In chapter 2, it is act nice to others, even we you don't feel like it. While action follows feelings, feelings also follow actions. So feed in good actions and good feelings result.
I think both of these suggestions have great merit for regular life and are very much worth putting into practice, hard as they are.
- Focus on other people's distress, and focus on it empathetically. ...
- ... Make sure you offer five positive comments for every criticism. On social media, that means five positive messages for every one others might see as negative.
- No contempt is ever justified, even if, in the heat of the moment, you think someone deserves it. It is unjustified more often than you know, it is always bad for you, and it will never convince anyone that she is wrong.
- Go where people disagree with you and learn from them. ...
— Love Your Enemies by Brooks, Arthur C. (16%)
Recounting suggestions from Dr. John Gottman on actions we can take personally in an effort to bring more unity back to public discourse.
Reading as part of a group. It's already a personal attack, but in a humbling and good way that's probably exactly what I need to hear.
"This humorous writing book from grammar columnist June Casagrande focuses on the sentence as the …
Since I write for a living, it seems important from time to time to read something to make me better at that job.
Parents of LGBT children guide: Unconditional: A Guide to Loving and Supporting Your LGBTQ Child" …
A good introduction for someone entering the world of LGBTQ+ life through their child. Each chapter ends with first hand perspectives of others and a helpful list of resources related to the chapter's topic.
Lucy, with her mother and her photographer father, has just moved to a small rural …
The way photography and a scavenger hunt are driving the story is really fascinating. All of the kids in the house are enthralled.
Lucy, with her mother and her photographer father, has just moved to a small rural …
Our first family read aloud of 2023! Family members loved the author's book, Rules, so looking forward to this one together.
For decades, our cultural discourse around trans and gender-diverse people has been viewed through a medical lens, through diagnoses and …
For decades, our cultural discourse around trans and gender-diverse people has been viewed through a …
I'll have to come back and reread this. It's a powerful history lesson and memoir that highlights the beauty and difficulty of just being when your being doesn't fit the socially accepted norms.
Highly recommended.
For decades, our cultural discourse around trans and gender-diverse people has been viewed through a …
This is one of the reasons representation of differently gendered or ungendered bodies is so deeply important: seeing ourselves reflected in the public not only gives us courage to be who we are, but it also asserts for us that it is right and normal and OK for us to feel joy. And it's OK for us to want that, to want to live a life free and open and joyous.
— In Transit by Dianna E. Anderson, Emily Vanderwerff (Page 98)
It's okay for every human to live. To be joyful. How devastating that we deprive so many of the belief and right to such.
For decades, our cultural discourse around trans and gender-diverse people has been viewed through a …
As someone who wants to be an ally and understand more the experience and desires of other humans, Anderson's discussions about history and theory are eye opening in the best way.
I just can't with this book. The vocabulary is unnecessarily pretentious. The big words are there for the sake of there being big words to show off that the author can use them. They don't serve the story at all. They just get in the way. The fat shaming is grotesque (there was a whole chapter that went into great depths to talk about the main characters eating habits and food choices, and the author doesn't miss a chance to remind people how obese he wrote the character). There have been lewd scenes and innuendos that seem to exist simply because the author wanted to show that he could put them in the book. It's all just so ... unnecessary.
Setting aside, and won't be coming back to it.
Set in my city, I'm looking forward to exploring it through different eyes. I don't often get a chance to read books set in a familiar area!
