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They don't call me Mankiller Jones for nothing. They call me Mankiller Jones because I tell people that's my name and I throw kind of a fit if anyone calls me anything else. Honestly, I have a feeling most people call me Shirley behind my back. Or Mx. Jones if they're feeling formal.

— Escape from Incel Island by Margaret Killjoy, Jonas Goonface (Page 1)

Laut dem Journalisten Tom Ehrhardt (er/ihn), der einen ganzen Podcast über Lana Kaisers Geschichte geschrieben hat, war Lana Kaiser die erste queer geoutete Person, die in Deutschland einen Nummer-eins-Hit hatte. Und ich finde, darüber wird viel zu wenig geredet. Statt ihr die visionäre Rolle zuzugestehen, die sie damals auch innehatte, wurde Kaiser in den Medien zur schrägen Außenseiterin mit psychischen Problemen hochstilisiert. Lana Kaiser wurde und wird – auch innerhalb der queeren Bubble – nicht als Ikone gefeiert, sondern vor allem pathologisiert und als Fall für die Boulevardpresse behandelt: eine verrückte Querschlägerin mit psychischen Problemen auf der Jagd nach Aufmerksamkeit.

— Die Zukunft ist nicht binär by Lydia Meyer

The disabled community has spent a long time fighting the idea that disabled people are, or should be, asexual. The ace community has struggled for as long as it has existed to prove that asexuality has nothing to do with disability. A disabled ace woman complicates both these political agendas, and it is perhaps in a situation like this that the question of legitimacy and in-group loyalty are most acute.

— Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen

Not all aces have been welcoming of people like Cara. Members of the ace community, especially in early years, rejected disabled aces completely, insisting that they would delegitimize asexuality and make it impossible to prove that asexuality is not related to (or caused by) disability and sickness. Even the efforts to add the asexual exception to the DSM ended up being subtly ableist by focusing on how happy aces are. "Rather than challenging stigma against both mental illness and asexuality, it seeks instead to rid asexuality of the stigma of mental illness," writes Wake Forest gender studies scholar Kristina Gupta. "Such normalizing tactics may come at the cost of intersectional analyses and coalitional possibilities."

— Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen

The details of why some groups find it harder than others to accept asexuality, or be accepted as ace, reveal the outlines of how sex and power and history have combined.

— Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen